That first practice, Tobias was paired with a twentysomething woman, and he was a bit taken back because every third word out of her mouth was an expletive. He wanted to coach another player the following week. But the woman ran over and gave him a hug, telling everyone I'm with him.
"So, that got me hooked," Tobias said. "Understanding that they recognized. From there, I kept coaching."
Years later, Tobias was named head coach after the incumbent moved upstate. There were challenges. One was recruiting junior coaches from Chelsea Piers and other local rinks. Another is expensive ice time to practice at Prospect Park's LeFrak Center in Brooklyn. Every October they travel to a storage unit in the Bronx to fit 51 players, anywhere from 10 to 15 newbies, for equipment.
Most of these kids' entire lives are person-to-person, like private tutoring because of their special needs. Tobias stopped short of saying they were coddled yet had to try something different.
"I'll go around and try to navigate the practice and make sure everybody's covered, but we don't need the one-on-one," Tobias said. "We'll actually push kids that try to get away with stuff, a little stricter to them. Not yelling, but just kind of stirring in the parents' level. Parents are like, this is the greatest thing.
"Once they learn how to skate, everybody's on the same level. Everybody's going to do the drills no matter how long it takes somebody. That was a big change that I was happy to see, and I was happy to implement."
Games are played against teams from Westchester and New Jersey in two-minute shifts based on ability or awareness level. Kids return to school with their morale high, boasting that they competed in a hockey game. Parents have approached Tobias asking to write their child's college recommendation letter. Many stick with North Stars, ages ranging from 5 to a 45-year-old goalie.
"Not everyone dedicates their time to children like ours," said Janet Marte, another hockey parent and O'Ree Award nominator. "Everyone wants to work with elite athletes, someone who's going to make them shine. He does it because he truly cares, because our children matter. Being part of the Central Park North Stars, we can see what my son can do."